我意识到也许这听起来超级蠢。你很可能会想，我肯定十分怪异、非常寂寞。有趣的是，我在开始独自生活前是更加孤单的。那种就像我需要一直跟别人待在一起才能做深呼吸的感觉，是孤单。男朋友跟我分手，那种极为焦虑恐慌的感受，是寂寞。但现在这种场景呢?这是平静，是趣味，是构建自信心的基础。以下是我学会独处的方法。

　　1. I just did it. And let go of trying to look "cool".

　　我只是一个人独处，并不去想怎么尽量看起来酷。

　　2. Make a list of your favorite things. And don't wait for anyone.

　　列出你最爱的事物，不要等任何人跟你一起去践行。

　　3. Schedule It. And don't cancel on yourself.

　　计划时间，不要取消与自己的约会。

　　For the past year, I've been single by choice. Not by circumstance. Not because no one will ask me out or I can't find anyone eligible. It's hard for some people to believe that I am choosing not to date, and I often get weird looks and confused grunts from my old aunt and college friends alike. Why would someone voluntarily choose to stay single? To spend time alone? Aren't I missing out on life by not going on Tinder dates? What if The One is out there but I don't catch him because I'm too busy staying single?